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Are you avoiding a necessary task, chore or conversation with someone because it feels too difficult or uncomfortable?
HARMFUL HABIT: beating yourself up for being lazy/weak OR burying your head in the sand and hoping for the best.
HELPFUL HABIT: getting curious about the reasons you are feeling so much resistance to the task or conversation...what specific thoughts and feelings get stirred up when you think about starting the task or having the talk?... sometimes just acknowledging and naming the thoughts and feelings can diffuse them... if not, is there someone you trust who can help you strategize about how to complete the task or have the conversation?...reach out to him/her... you might be surprised how positively others respond to being called upon for support and how another person's input might help you see your challenge in a new light.
Do you find yourself falling short of your goals and expectations for yourself (whether in your career, health and fitness, social life, etc.)?
HARMFUL HABIT - reprimanding yourself for not being good enough or disciplined enough to reach the standards you have aimed for and/or aggressively pushing yourself to meet the mark at the expense of your physical or emotional well-being.
HELPFUL HABIT- first and foremost checking in honestly with yourself about whether the goal/expectation you have set for yourself is one that you would advise a loved one to set for her/himself...if no (maybe even if yes), thinking critically about what makes this a good goal for you and whether it should be revised in any way... next, explore whether there are ways you can keep moving toward your goal/revised goal more gently and self-compassionately... and consistently acknowledging yourself for your steps forward/successes (small or large) in the journey toward your goal...perhaps you'll find you aren't actually falling so short after all.